Once upon a time in a far away land there
lived a charming girl who good natured and everyone in the villeage loved her.
One day she met a prince wandering in the forest and they fell head over heels
in love. The girl, however, felt guilty because she harboured a secret. She was
born as a half human and half wolf, a beautiful girl during the day and by
night a mighty she-wolf. It was only by the hand of true love can she control
her “gift” and live a fulfilling life.
Days and months passed, the couple fell deeper and deeper into love. The
deeper she fell in love, the more guilt she had. Until one day, she told him
her secret.
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We
are taught at a young age what it means to love through fairy tales. The
conception that love will come from a dazzling prince who will sweep you off
your feet and live happily ever after is in fact a misconception. Those types
of stories are too good to be true, don’t you think?
In
retrospect, these fairy tales reflect some realistic truths about
relationships, life, and love.
First, it reinforces the
reality that marrying rich is good advice.
In the Disney fairy tales, and even in the original
stories by the Grimm Brothers, one thing is for sure, it showed a class
difference between two star crossed lovers. Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast, Alladin
are some examples where the girl (or in Alladin’s case, the guy) had to go
through drastic means to become financially stable. It is not necessarily a bad
thing, but it does paint a story that mirrors the general view society has
towards marriage and relationships.
Second, be wary of the crazy
mother in law or step mother
Mirror
Mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of all?
O Lady
Queen, though fair ye be, Snow White is farrier far to see
In
the Snow White fairy tell, Snow White and her Prince faced a crazy step mother
with image issues, combined with her temper and flair for dramatics, make her a
very deadly villain.
In
the story, Cinderella, the evil step mother had attention issues and a
superiority complex. To compound her bitch attitude, she had two equally bitchy
daughters because the apple never falls to far from the tree.
Cinderella
and Snow White are stories where the mother figure plays a rather important
role in determining the happiness of a relationship. Instead, what do these
stories teach us as young children? They teach us to “hope for happiness” to
“hope for a brand new day” and to “always do unto others as you would like
others to do unto you.” However, the obvious underlying realistic and practical lessons
in these stories should be to always make a good first impression with the
“mother” because that will ultimately determine the level misery of your
relationship.
The last challenge is we
are conditioned to believe in “happily ever after”
After
the story ends, what do we believe will happen? Think about it, “Happily Ever
After” implies the Prince and Princess lead a perfect life, drama free because
they already got over the hurdle of the evil witch, the bitchy step bother, and
every curse and poison in the book.
However,
with time and old age we learn “Happily Ever After” is far and few between. A
pessimist once said, Life does not always
have happy endings, and it will take medication, unreturned phone calls, heart
break, and some therapy to ultimately get there.
Personally,
I believe we need to change “Happily Ever After” to “And they lived happily as
they could possibly be after.”
A pessimist, however, offers a few
other realistic alternatives to “Happily Ever After” to consider
a.
And with all the alimony,
she finally bought the castle she always dreamed of
b.
And he never found out the
child wasn’t his
c.
And she never had any idea that he was actually gay
d.
And they stayed together
because of the kids
In
the end you should make your own story but maybe one day when you have children
or grand children, try to give them a reality dose of the world to make them
realize that “happily ever after” is not something that happens naturally..it is
something you have to work hard for. As they always say, If you’re not willing
to take the pain, then don’t get in the game.
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So to continue the fairy tale we
started before. Upon hearing the news of the young girl’s secret, the Prince
ran off scared for his life that one day he will be ripped from limb to limb in
their marriage bed. The girl cried, got over it, and then chased him for
dinner. – And she lived happily ever after.
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